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Addiction Enabled: 3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death Part 3

Addiction Enabled:

3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death

Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 in our 3 part series on how to know if you are enabling or loving your addict to death.

Sign 3 – You both wear a mask of denial:

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Denial is the enemy of the truth. You KNOW that what I’ve talked about is a spittin’ image of your current situation, but you don’t like to admit it. You’d rather feel better and hope that your loved one will eventually just straighten out. Well, when they are in denial about their problem, as with most addicts and alcoholics in the thick of it are, and you are as well, this brings nothing but a negative outcome on both ends.

Imagine: Your daughter asks you for “food money” and you give her $100 and tell her to be careful, the rest of the money is for emergencies only. This in itself can be an emergency situation. She leaves, you worry yourself to death, wondering if she will live for another night, because you know what she’s doing, and you just supported the hell out of it. You are officially enabling her to death. Every time she goes out, it’s with your money. IF she comes back, it’s to your home. She has no worries except how easily she can get her next fix, paid for by you. You love her and want the best for her.

She is addicted to drugs and you are addicted to her.

My point is with all this: Not only to watch your own back but look out for your loved ones too. Don’t feed their addiction, don’t coddle them, don’t accept lies and excuses. Don’t feed their toxicity with more toxicity. Give them a very short time to get their shit together and get help, or make them leave your house. The results of tough love can be far less painful than the eulogy you may be writing if you don’t stop giving into someone else’s addiction.

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Addiction Enabled: 3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death Part 1

Addiction Enabled:

3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death

Part 1

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This is a tough one. People die left and right of overdose from multiple controlled substances, alcohol poisoning, and many other forms of death tied to the drug world, including violence. It’s not such a predictable realm as most would think. I mean to some extent; you know for the most part that bad things can happen when you’re into bad things.

Enjoy this THREE-PART SERIES

As a FAMILY RECOVERY COACH and a failure to launch expert, I get asked all the time if I think that a family member is simply supporting the addict or literally killing them. This is a very tough call and conversation to have because most of the time, it is the latter.

So, how do you know if you are helping, or killing your loved one, if you’re supporting their drug habit or being lied to? Here are a few signs that you might be an enabler, and your loved one might be taking advantage of you in order to keep their drug of choice flowing through their body. Let’s take a look at some of these.

Sign 1 – They keep asking for money, and you keep giving it to them

In this case, we’re talking addiction. Either way, giving someone what they want all the time usually isn’t healthy, unless it’s your occupation. So, let’s stick to the subject and say your son or daughter gets money from you whenever they want. You ask what it’s for, they say it’s for food, gas, or even tell you not to worry about it. For one, it’s definitely your business where your money is going. For two, if they live with you, it’s also your business what and who they are potentially bringing into your home. It’s also your business whether or not they are in danger. Take this scenario into great consideration: Your kid asks you for $50. They tell you they’re using it to get gas and go out to eat. But you know they are lying. You know they get high or drunk off the money you hand them. But you give it to them anyway. 24 hours later, you get that call that every parent fears more than anything. They’re in the hospital in critical condition or have died from an overdose or a drunken car crash. These situations are unpredictable. But there are also many things that could possibly avoid such tragic results from becoming a reality. Stop giving them money, for one. If they say it’s for gas or food, and you insist on helping them, pump the gas. Purchase the food. Even if it keeps them from going out and getting high for 1 night, even 1 hour, it’s possible that the situation might end differently, and give you a chance to talk to your loved one about getting help. If you stop the cash flow, you stop financially supporting the addiction from your end.

As a Nationally Certified Family Recovery Coach, I tell my families all the time that sometimes you need to say ‘NO’. Parents want their kids to be happy, they want them to do well and be successful. However, giving them everything they want can be costly. Failure to launch clients will always ask for money, never want to work, and ‘always be waiting on the call for an interview’. They just never seem to get it together. Does any of this sound familiar to you yet?

If it does, we are here for you. Please check out FixFailure2Launch and The Addictions Coach or if you want to become certified as a Nationally Certified Family Recovery Coach or Nationally Certified Recovery Coach.

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States Slash the Addiction Budget, While Overdoses Rise. See our Answer to this!

 


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States slash addiction budgets as overdoses and mental health skyrocket. That means free and low-cost services will be a thing of the past. Treatment centers can operate at a 20% fill rate, which means jobs are lost and fewer clients per facility. Those that lost jobs have no insurance and can not pay for the treatment with insurance anymore. That means that qualified and trained mental health and addiction service providers are in-demand. That means that cash pay services will go up and recovery coaches, interventionists and counselors in the field need to be ready to accept clients.

But we have a shortage of qualified, educated and trained individuals. If you are ready to combat the COVID 19 pandemic and utilize your time while in lockdown to help more people and create a nice income for yourself, we at The Addictions Academy are ready to help you succeed. The Addictions Academy is the industry’s top school and training entity who offers training and certifications both in person or through our state of the art virtual classroom settings. Most of us are in “lockdown” mode, curfews, or some type of social restrictions during the COVID 19 pandemic, so this would be the perfect time to enroll in one of The Addictions Academy’s online virtual certification classes. I would also like to mention that Covid-19 has caused a major spike in drug use and addiction in general and, with this being said, there is a high-demand for top nationally certified professional recovery coaches.

YOU are the answer! 

Like I mentioned before, The Addictions Academy has a reputation of turning out and certifying the industry’s best professional recovery coaches and also offers job placement to qualified students. We have now trained over 15,000 individuals in 25 countries and we are translated into 5 languages. Over 350 addiction treatment centers have hired us to train their staff and credential them.

The next virtual online class offered by The Addictions Academy is Nationally Certified Recovery Coaching Level I. This is both an entry-level recovery coaching certification or a way for existing professional recovery coaches to also sharpen their skills. This class is being held July 23-24 from 10-3 EDT. Nationally Certified Recovery Coaching can be taken from the comfort and safety of your own home or office for the low price of $1329. This price also includes our Best Selling Work Book, all credentials and certifications, job placement for qualified students, AND a complimentary class, Recovery Coach II. This is an offer you just can’t refuse while we are restricted to our homes and offices. There is no better way to capitalize on this extra time at home than to sharpen your skills in the addictions industry and become one of the industry’s top nationally certified professional recovery coaches! Register for all of our classes at http://www.theaddictionsacademy.com or by calling 1-800-706-0318 ext 2. Contact us today to reserve your seat for Nationally Certified Recovery Coaching Level 1 on July 23-24.

Prescription Medication Misuse And Abuse

Ask the Expert:

 Prescription Medication Misuse and Abuse

Question:  “My daughter is using prescription medications for depression and anxiety.  I just saw something on the internet that shows the kids are snorting and shooting these medications.  She was given Klonopin.”  Karen P., Chula Vista, California.

Answer:  Cali Estes says-  “Any prescription drug can be abused, misused or given away or sold for something else.  There are 2 types of anxiety: rational and irrational.  If her fear is rational (ie” she was in a car accident and almost died, she may need some medication in addition to therapy) but if it is irrational, with no basis, I would start with therapy before medications, because medications will only mask the underlying issue without therapy.

Klonopin is a heavy drug and should not be misused, or taken while driving, it can also not be mixed with other medications, so I would be sure there are no mixed medications and she addresses the underlying cause of the anxiety, otherwise she will be dependent on meds and then you have a whole separate issue when addiction sets in.

You have to remember the doctor sees her for 15 minutes and his job is to remove any pain she is having, not to solve her core issues.”

Ask The Expert: option on rehab and treatment centers

What is your opinion on all these rehabs and treatment centers saying that they can cure someone or fix them, and giving their guarantee?
We at The Addictions Academy and the Addictions Coach do not believe you can cure someone or fix someone, however; we also do not believe that you have ‘an incurable disease, and that you must give up your will and surrender’, like most drug and alcohol treatment centers base their model on. We believe that each person has the power within themselves to change and to move forward in their lives. We assist them by getting to the root cause of the addiction and move forward with them from that point. We use the tools necessary to extract purpose and passion in their lives and re-learn old behavior patterns that were destructive.  Can we cure someone? No, but we can assist them with the tools to change and not make them feel shame and guilt like most programs.  We do not follow the disease concept model as we do not believe that people have an incurable disease.  For that we get a lot of flack, but only from those in the industry that still follow this antiquated model.  Our clients love us, because we are RESULTS DRIVEN. Not disease driven and our success rate speaks volumes for itself.

Will Parents Be To Blame For Many Future Drug Addicts?

ADHD Medication Could Set Your Child Up For Drug Addiction As An Adult

Many doctors and psychologists are finally starting to agree that the diagnosis of ADHD in children is “over-used” and based on “fuzzy diagnostic practices”, as stated by Harvard psychologist and world leader in child development, Jerome Kagan.  In addition, Dr. Edward C. Hamlyn, a founding member of the Royal College of General  Practitioners, in 1998 stated, “ADHD is fraud intended to justify starting  children on a life of drug addiction.”

How it works: A child is prescribed an approved drug to help with the ADHD or ADD.  These drugs are stimulants.  Stimulant abuse and prescription drug addiction is the most common addiction, next to alcohol.  These children get used to the feelings these drugs give them.  As they get older and stress and anxiety take on bigger roles, they turn to using drugs to cope saying that the high feels “strangely familiar”.   By the time the stressful situation is over they are left with the addiction, still needing the high to  feel normal.

Here are the black-box warnings of the side effects of many ADHD and ADD medications:
– Confusion
– Depersonalization
– Hostility
– Hallucinations
– Manic  reactions
– Suicidal ideation
– Loss of consciousness
– Delusions
– Feeling drunk
– Alcohol abuse
– Homicidal  ideation
Why would parents subject their children to drugs with such  noted dangerous side effects?  What is this setting them up for as adults?

Cleary we have lazy parents that lack the skills or time to teach their own children good behavior, and doctors that over prescribe medication instead of spending time with their patients.  (Cali Estes was featured on NBC Universal News for this exact topic of over prescription and not dealing with the underlying cause of the problem)

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Heroin Addict Scammed Thousands Of Dollars, Pretended To Have Cancer

She Scammed businesses out of thousands of dollars, even having businesses and community members organizing fundraisers for her.  Unwittingly, all their funds went to her heroin addiction.   The judge has sentenced her to up to two years in a drug treatment program.  Will it be enough to get her the help she needs?  Hire a Certified Recovery Coach and be sure! 

See article below:

Brittany Ozarowski pleaded guilty on Monday in Suffolk County Court to a 24-count indictment charging her with grand larceny, forgery and other crime

She has admitted she was hooked on heroin when she raised thousands of dollars by falsely claiming she had cancer, prosecutors and her attorney said Wednesday.

She befriended business owners and others in her community, telling them a tale about undergoing cancer treatments, prosecutors said. Because she was a heroin addict, no one seemed to question her 80-pound appearance as she hobbled on a cane going from store to store leaving donation jars, they said.

Although Ozarowski could have faced a sentence of up to seven years in prison, Judge John Iliou said he would sentence the 21-year-old to a drug treatment program for up to two years plus an additional year’s probation. Ozarowski, who’s from Miller Place, 60 miles east of New York City, also will be required to pay more than $10,000 in restitution.

Alcoholics Paid In Beer To Clean Streets- Goverment Says This Will Help Them Drink Less! What’s Your Opinion?

The streets of Amsterdam are being cleaned up by alcoholics that were causing trouble in the local park.   The Rainbow Foundation has decided to put these addicts to work, and pay them in beer.  The government is funding their workday with two beers when they begin work at 9 am, two beers with a hot lunch, and an additional beer along with 10 euros when they finish the day at 3:30 pm.  The Foundation stands behind this undertaking, stating that these people are being given structure and keeping them busy, which means they will ultimately drink less.  There are mixed comments from some of the men working.  One said that he leaves and uses the money to buy more beer to drink the rest of the day.  Another said that after a busy, productive day, he has no need for more alcohol.   This is quite unconventional, but will it really help with their addiction, or is the government just exploiting their addiction to get the city clean?