How Can I Tell If My Child Is Using Drugs?

How Can I Tell If My Child Is Using Drugs?

Ask The Expert:  “How can I tell if my son is using drugs?  His behavior has changed.   He always wants to argue with me and beg for money, even though I give him over $200 a week.  I asked him to take one of those home drug tests that I bought for $35 at the CVS but he refuses.  I don’t know what to do.  Can you help me?”  — Marilyn J. from Oklahoma

Answer: Cali Estes Says, “I would have him evaluated by a professional that specializes in drug and alcohol issues.  Have him evaluated to rule out any mental health issues and determine if he needs drug and alcohol treatment.  Once you have him evaluated by a professional you can request a urine test.  If it is positive, then we can talk about drug and alcohol treatment.  I would have a full 12 panel test done and request a spice and bath salts test to check for legal drugs that he may be on as well.  Also, I would suggest you sweep his room.  Check drawers, under mattresses, in small areas, look for pills, drugs, alcohol etc.  If you need assistance we can offer an Interventionist or Recovery Coach to assist you with this.  We also offer Family Coaching to get you through the rough patch and assist you with your son.”

Prescription Medication Misuse And Abuse

Ask the Expert:

 Prescription Medication Misuse and Abuse

Question:  “My daughter is using prescription medications for depression and anxiety.  I just saw something on the internet that shows the kids are snorting and shooting these medications.  She was given Klonopin.”  Karen P., Chula Vista, California.

Answer:  Cali Estes says-  “Any prescription drug can be abused, misused or given away or sold for something else.  There are 2 types of anxiety: rational and irrational.  If her fear is rational (ie” she was in a car accident and almost died, she may need some medication in addition to therapy) but if it is irrational, with no basis, I would start with therapy before medications, because medications will only mask the underlying issue without therapy.

Klonopin is a heavy drug and should not be misused, or taken while driving, it can also not be mixed with other medications, so I would be sure there are no mixed medications and she addresses the underlying cause of the anxiety, otherwise she will be dependent on meds and then you have a whole separate issue when addiction sets in.

You have to remember the doctor sees her for 15 minutes and his job is to remove any pain she is having, not to solve her core issues.”

Questions To Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach

Questions To Cali:

Question #1:  “Cali do you find you make more money as a therapist or a recovery coach?  I want to get into coaching, but I am afraid I won’t get clients.”~ John Tagert, New York

Answer:  “John, Recovery Coaching is a super lucrative field and the clients actually enjoying coming to see you. In therapy, the clients dread coming.  They get stuck in the negative and frankly don’t get very far in years.  In Recovery Coaching, I am able to get further in 6 months using a forward action plan then clients have attained in years of therapy.  Some therapists are excited by the idea of Recovery Coaching and getting cash pay clients, verses having to accept insurance and getting very little if at all.”


Question #2:  “Have you had anyone tell you that it is a disgrace what you are doing and a therapist should not be a coach?”

Answer: “Yes and I find it comical.  I have had a few therapists and uncertified interventionists send me emails that are funny actually.  I started a Recovery Coaching Certification process and I am the only one that took it national.  I think that they are just jealous that I am backed by NAADAC with a full National Certification in Recovery Coaching and a full National Certification in Intervention.  If they were not so busy being jealous, they might actually be able to grow their practice beyond their local zip code.”

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Ask The Expert: Today’s Topic-Therapy vs. Coaching

Question:  “How did you make the transition from therapy to coaching and was it viable?”

Answer:  Cali Estes Says “I was tired of people coming and expecting me to fix all of their problems, it gets depressing listening to all the negative stuff and watching people not make changes, and of course the no show appointments.  Then, the issue of insurance, not getting paid, getting paid less than what you are worth, etc.  With coaching, the clients want to see me, come to all appointments and take action to meet their goals.  Plus they pay me upfront in cash!  I have created a group of certifications to help therapists make this transition.  You can find them at ”

Ask The Expert:

Question: What do your professional students have to say about your classes?

Answer:  Cali Estes says “Let our students speak for themselves.  See our Testimonials Below”




“I have completed several other training programs for addiction intervention before the Nationally Certified Interventionist Training (NCIP-1) and your program is the best by far.  Not only was it cost effective, but the practical experience and interactive web approach should set the standard for the training.  The two day intensive was so thorough, I plan to insist that any interventionist I work with complete this program before we work together.  Thoughtful and effective! This was the best intervention training of all the programs that I have attended.” Stephen Timmer


“As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has added  life coaching to my private practice , Cali’s Recovery Coaching course provided  additional tools I can use with my clients in recovery.”  Sherry Gaba, LCSW,  author of The Law of Sobriety.  Sherry Gaba, LCSW Psychotherapist and Life Coach  Author of “The Law of Sobriety” To get my free weekly newsletter sign up here. Check out my  blogs featured on Beliefnet, Counselor Magazine, Everyday Health, and Intent Blog.  Please visit my site at

Sherry Gaba, LCSW, author of The  Law of Sobriety.


“The staff and I thought the training was very well  done.  The book you sent us has a lot of good information that can be used in the  future.  It was great to cover so many types of interventions, before the  training I was only experienced in the Johnston model.  Being able to watch the  role play was also a great way to see these in action. Danny McQuinn, Owner of  Clean Start Interventions.  My phone numbers are 765-301-1555 and 765-301-1554.  Our address is, Kokomo, 4408 Rosewood, IN 46901. I thought the certification  was comprehensive and
dynamic.” Danny Mcquinn
“Cali is a great facilitator as well as a coach who  knows what she’s dealing with.  People who take her certification will be more  equipped to handle the many complications that come with addictions and how we  can better handle those who suffer them.  From the practical issues involved in  handling fees and time management to the clinical mental health issues, she  covers all bases to help us work better to create a winning recovery  team.”

Rob Marchesani, MSSc, LP New York City

“I just wanted to say thank you for the training that  you offered on interventions. The written material is informative, and well organized.  The live webcam offered an interactive experience that was easy to  follow.  As a teacher, I found you to be extremely well informed, patient and  able to answer all questions professionally and effectively as they arose.  Thank  you for a great training experience!”  Debbie Maidman, BA, CASAC, NCIP Lifescape  Solutions Outreach Coordinator C-561.301.2826; 845.304.1586 Fax: 561.265.5673

Debbie Maidman

“Cali’s clinical knowledge and successful experiences  with interventions makes this course a must! Even if you had prior experiences with interventions, Cali’s intervention course builds confidence and a better  foundation for successful interventions.”

Kevin Schaefer, Milwaukee  WI

“Although I have been a Life Coach for many years, the  Recovery Coach Training that I took with you has opened up new avenues of  approach in helping the addicted client.  You covered every aspect of Recovery Coaching from intake, treatment, and daily contact, to life skills and behavioral  modification.  I am grateful for the knowledge you bestowed upon us and the opportunity to learn.”
 Laura Kelley A One Coaching Delray Beach, Florida  561-577-3083

Laura Kelley Delray Beach, FL.

“After working for several years in Stockholm, Sweden with clients suffering from addiction, dual diagnosis and mental illness, I  consider myself very fortunate to have discovered your course(s) while searching  for work/clients after relocating to Los Angeles last year.  Your training is top notch, with practical step by step instruction and course materials on how to set up a coaching practice and insightful sample case study group exercises.  I was  amazed at the amount of valuable information, helpful strategies and tips that were presented in the relatively short course duration.  I warmly recommend your training to anyone working in this field.  Thank you!”  818.877.9892

James M. Michie Los Angeles, CA

Cali’s Recovery Coach and Intervention trainings were extremely valuable.  In two weekends I learned an enormous amount of information both from Cali and from the participants.  Cali is charismatic, dynamic,  extremely knowledgeable and experienced and she is smart as a whip!!  I left the  course wanting more which is the best sign of a great training.”

Ellen Faulkner, Philadelphia PA

“My name is Debbie Perkins and I took Cali’s Interventionist certification class.  I was in addiction all my life and I have  been sober for several years.  I wanted to start helping people who were in addictive addiction decide to go into treatment. There are several models that a person that is going to do an Intervention can use that I had no clue about. She  taught me what I needed to know to be successful in doing an Intervention. I  recommend taking her class to anyone who has decided to become an Interventionist! Debbie Perkins ”

Deb Perkins, Delray Beach, FL

“ I really enjoyed the training and thought it was  very informative. I read through the manual prior to the class and I am happy we didn’t read it work for word.  My co workers here were very impressed with my certification and wanted to learn more but I am not sure if they are in the market for something like that at this time. My place of work is called The  Granite House in Derry, NH”

David Megenis, Derry, NH

I took both the Recovery Coach and the Intervention  training with Cali and I am extremely pleased that I did.  I was skeptical at first of attending a Webinar but it was a great class and I felt like I was in a classroom enviroment. Cali is an outstanding instructor and very personable, no  question went unanswered.  Cali uses her personal experiences to prepare students for real life situations.  I would strongly suggest these courses for anyone who  is in the field or wanting to get in the field or recovery coaching and  interventions.  Joseph R. Novak CEO, New Life Recovery Services http://www.newliferecoveryservices.com Phone:   850-585-9992

Joseph R. Novak

“I really enjoyed your class. It was very informative  and you are a great teacher” Marilyn Kelly, New Directions Behavioral Health, LLC

Marilyn Kelly

“I enjoyed the Training my goal is just to gain more  knowledge.  And have resources in the states that I can feed leads to from my place here in Mexico! Just to make sure I’m referring people to the right  sources so we can maximize the success of what we’re doing here!  Value Added  that’s our goal!  Thanks So Much, very impressed with your knowledge You Got  This” Roy Moffit owner

Roy  Moffit

Ask The Expert- Today’s Topic: Working With Athletes

QUESTION:  ”I know you work with athletes, dealing with their issues in drugs, alcohol, guns, gambling, women and anger.  What do you different with them that you don’t do with other people?”  Alex C., New York, New York  

ANSWER:  ”When I work directly with athletes, we focus on them as individuals.  We focus on their talents on the field or court and work with them when their head is in the game and out.  We handle all the issues and concerns that are specific to them and their career.  We also deal with anger management and things that are relevant to them, like taking guns into nightclubs and domestic violence.  So it is specific and individualized.  You can find more about us on

Ask The Expert: Today’s Topic- Mobile Rehab

Question:  What is this mobile rehab thing you do and how is this mobile rehab different from drug and alcohol treatment facilities?  George F., Brunswick, NJ

Cali Estes’ Answer: At The Addictions Coach we offer a unique service.  We take drug and alcohol treatment to the next level.  We actually bring the therapy to the client.   We offer the same services that a drug and alcohol treatment center can offer, however, treatment is at the clients home, office and work space.  We also condense the treatment and do it in 7 days, an intensive one on one experience.  We get to the root cause of the issues quickly and move forward with the client to resolve their issues.  No groups, no meetings.  Insane?  The idea is different but it works.  We have nothing but success stories.

ASK THE EXPERT- Today’s Topic: Recovery Coaching As A Career

Question:  “I was thinking of getting into Recovery Coaching, but I don’t know where to start.  What are your thoughts?”   Jeremy B.

Cali Estes says: “Recovery Coaching is a career on the rise.  As insurance fluctuates for what drug and alcohol treatment centers will accept, people still need quality care and they are willing to pay for it.  Also the buzz word ‘coach’ is very popular now and a lot of people do not like the stigma of going to a therapist or counselor, but everyone from top executives to the mom next door has a coach.”   At The Addictions Academy we offer the only National Certification Program in Recovery Coaching.  Check us out at or call us at 786.709.0479