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Addiction Enabled: 3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death Part 3

Addiction Enabled:

3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death

Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 in our 3 part series on how to know if you are enabling or loving your addict to death.

Sign 3 – You both wear a mask of denial:

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Denial is the enemy of the truth. You KNOW that what I’ve talked about is a spittin’ image of your current situation, but you don’t like to admit it. You’d rather feel better and hope that your loved one will eventually just straighten out. Well, when they are in denial about their problem, as with most addicts and alcoholics in the thick of it are, and you are as well, this brings nothing but a negative outcome on both ends.

Imagine: Your daughter asks you for “food money” and you give her $100 and tell her to be careful, the rest of the money is for emergencies only. This in itself can be an emergency situation. She leaves, you worry yourself to death, wondering if she will live for another night, because you know what she’s doing, and you just supported the hell out of it. You are officially enabling her to death. Every time she goes out, it’s with your money. IF she comes back, it’s to your home. She has no worries except how easily she can get her next fix, paid for by you. You love her and want the best for her.

She is addicted to drugs and you are addicted to her.

My point is with all this: Not only to watch your own back but look out for your loved ones too. Don’t feed their addiction, don’t coddle them, don’t accept lies and excuses. Don’t feed their toxicity with more toxicity. Give them a very short time to get their shit together and get help, or make them leave your house. The results of tough love can be far less painful than the eulogy you may be writing if you don’t stop giving into someone else’s addiction.

If you want help and peace of mind, please call us at 800 706 0318 ext 1 and let us help you deal with the issues. You are not alone. Visit The Addictions Coach to see our full array of services to help you help them. Visit The Addictions Academy if  you are interested in being trained as a Nationally Certified Family Recovery Coach or Nationally Certified Recovery Coach.

Addiction Enabled: 3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death PART 2

Addiction Enabled:

3 Signs you are Coddling Your Loved One To Death

Part 2

WELCOME TO PART 2 IN OUR SERIES

 

Are you the enabling mother, father, or husband or wife and you just want to help but seem to make it worse? We understand….read on and we can help you.enabling

Sign 2 – The addict lives with you, and isn’t trying to work their way into a place of their own:

Your kid or even your sister or brother, a grown adult, needs a place to stay because of whatever circumstances may have come into play. So, you let them stay with you, with the promise that they will get a job super-fast, help around the house, and keep good company. 3 days later, you have not seen them for 3 days and they have not cleaned up after himself/herself. You may even find beer bottles or needles, other paraphernalia in their room (your living room). But you clean it up and let them come back whenever they will. They are not looking for a job, but you keep taking their excuses and hoping for the best. You cannot just hope someone will get better.

They may even admit it and say they want help; they ask you just to let them stay with you until they can find help. Well, even though you cannot do everything for someone, especially what they can do for themselves, this is where you cut off the excuses and bullshit, discard it, and put something into action. You get phone numbers to treatment centers or coaches, counselors, whatever might help. Then you discuss the situation and start putting together a plan. You tell this person that they call these places, get into the program, even an intervention for starts. If they don’t accept the help, they leave. It’s hard, yes.

But if you keep allowing any addict to take advantage of a couch, a fridge, a TV, and a shower, you’re enabling them. You’re potentially enabling their death by making things easy for them, so they don’t even feel the need to get help, or so much as evaluating what they are doing with their body, with their life, with YOUR LIFE. It’s the help they can take it or leave it. The most important thing you can do in this matter is to stand your ground and keep your word. No more free ride.

This is where my job as a Family Recovery Coach comes into play. I am able to discuss their addiction with them and you as a unit. We set boundaries, we set rules and we stick to them. We literally force their only hand, which is helpful, and as a Certified Family Recovery Coach, I can help you, the family unit through the entire process.

When you deal with failure to launch, or addiction treatment issues, you want a trained professional to assess the situation, make suggestions, and most importantly get action. You need RESULTS and we get them. Check out The Addictions Coach  and if you are looking to get certified as a Nationally Certified Family Coach or Nationally Certified Recovery Coach or call us at 1.800.706.0318 ext 2

Who is the Most Successful Addiction Training Company in the World?

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At The Addictions Academy we are different. We want you to be successful and our competitors HATE US for it! We have risen to the top of recovery coach training, certified intervention training, family recovery coach training, addiction counselor training, addiction life coach training, medically assisted therapy (MAT) and we even have a few specialty classes that no other training organization has! Do you know what makes us different?

*All of our teachers are the top in their field. Each teacher has an extensive portfolio of accomplishments, media outlets, books written and tv appearances. We are not people that took a 40-hour class last week and are suddenly ‘coach trainers’ the next. All faculty have spent years honing their craft and studying to give you the best possible education.

*The Addictions Academy offers you a JOB Board, two networking groups and several ways to help you get clients, like hiring our students and paying them (who else does that?)

*We offer you a FREE 30 day membership in our www.recoverycoachlocator.com to help you get seen more easily by clients. You can add video, photos, location, hours and more!

*We have a full marketing program that you can take advantage of to learn how to go into private practice and gain clients. Whether you charge $25 or $250 per hour, we can help you gain clients. From a DIY class to helping you become an authority with your book (or a chapter in a book), podcast placements, press releases and more. Our full-service marketing arm will help you, the student, succeed. After all, we are only as strong as you, our students.

*We offer seals for your social media, websites, business cards and more to show that you are certified and educated by The Addictions Academy, the top addiction education school in the business.

*We have been offering the online virtual classroom style since 2012 and we specialize in the ‘learn in your pajamas concept’. While all of our in-person competitors scramble to create online courses and classes, rest assured we have been offering an online virtual classroom webinar for over 8 years. We even offer a full video series for self-study if you can not attend the class times.

*The Addictions Academy is the ONLY education provider for addiction studies and recovery coaching, intervention certification and more that offers a REPEAT class for free. That is right, you can repeat the class you paid for at any time. Just let us know, even if you took the class 5 years ago, you could sit in again, for FREE. That is right, no charge. As in 100% FREE. We want our students to have the most up-to-date information and this is how we do it!

*We have trained over 12,000 people in 8 years, in 25 countries, and we are translated now into 6 languages. Several countries have bought our entire manual collection. One of the top addiction treatments centers has purchased our entire call center, business developer and AMA/APA block training classes for all 17 of its addiction treatments centers.

*We are accredited by all accreditation bodies that are necessary to oversee what you are getting trained in. CACCF (Canada) IC&RC, Florida Certification Board, ICF, IAAP, ACTO and more. We are able to provide CEU and CCE credits as well.

You can see the full class offerings, apply for a class, or just browse at www.theaddictionsacademy.com

 

So who are the brains behind The Addictions Academy? Well, we are as strong as our top faculty! See below for our faculty:

Kevin Parker, BS, teaches our Addiction life coach certification (featured on NBC, Fox, NY Post, NY1 etc.) his class has been in high- demand and we have had a waiting list to offer it online, virtual classroom. Kevin brings his high energy and passion for addiction recovery and his life coach training is top notch. He comes from the true-life coach world of John Maxwell. His class is ICF CCE accredited. Kevin is a bestselling author and also teaches the live Recovery Coach Certification class in New York City.

Dr. Doug Weiss (featured on Oprah, Good Morning America, Dr. Phil, Montel and more) offers both the training for sex addiction coaching, sex addiction therapy and also the new training for the spouse of the addict called sexual anorexia coaching.  The prerequisite for Dr. Doug Weiss’ class is our Certified Life Coach training with Kevin! What a great combination of energy and training!  Dr. Doug Weiss has written many best-selling books and been featured on all news outlets. He is a true pioneer in his field.

Dr. Teralyn Sell heads up our NeuroHealth class and our full supplement line at ProRecoveryRx (featured on NBC, WedMd, A&E, Today, NBC, FOX, CNN, MSN, ABC, CBS and more). Dr. Terri offers a unique and scientific look into the brain and how supplements affect the neural pathways. She is a seasoned, licensed mental health counselor and specializes in addiction and trauma. Dr. Terri is the brainchild behind the new supplement line for addiction and mental health issues. At The addictions Academy, we want you to be an affiliate and sell the supplements to help your client heal from their substance use disorder. Check out the full line at www.prorecoveryrx.com

Jenny Fontana, NT, NCRC-I, NCFAC offers our Nutrition in Recovery course.  She is a Certified Nutritional Therapist with her own private practice, who brings years of coaching one on one and in groups into the addiction arena.  Jenny recognizes there is a disconnect with nutrition programs in most treatment centers.  Her experience with nutrition and gut health offers vital insight to anyone in addiction recovery, as she teaches us to reestablish a relationship with REAL food.

Tricia Parido, BS, IMAC, CATCIII  (featured on NBC and more) offers our live recovery coach certification courses in Los Angeles and Northern California. She is a best-selling author and has been a certified addictions therapist with over 10 professional coaching certifications and trainings under her belt. She is one of our featured supervisors on our training calls each week and brings a fresh perspective to recovery coach training!

Andre Viel, MBAR, NADA (featured on NBC, Fox, ABC and more) and a bestselling author brings his mediation and meditation background to the family addictions certification coaching class.  He is highly respected in the Canadian market and handles both the Certified Family Recovery Coach classes and the in-person Recovery Coach Certification in the Canadian market.

Dr. Cali Estes (featured on CNN, CNBC, MSN, Washington Post, NBC, ABC, People Magazine, Dr. Drew,  Readers Digest, Yoga Journal, and more) has created  our signature RAAD Model of top intervention training, that has caught on as one of the most successful models of a quick intervention and is used by all the top interventionists. Dr. Cali offers her signature Recovery Coach Certification, Harm Reduction (MAT) training, and of course her Certified Food Addiction Coaching training programs.  Dr. Cali Estes is a multiple best-selling author and corporate success trainer. Her signature Sober on Demand program is in high demand.

 

So what are you waiting for? Check out the student reviews below.

When you are choosing a school to learn life coaching, how to be a certified recovery coach or certified interventionist you want to hear and see from real students that have taken the classes. You want to be a top interventionist or certified in recovery coaching and you want the best hands-on training on the market.  You want to hear what people who actually went through the program have to say. You want to see them in video and listen to their stories. You want to know that the reviews are real.

With over 12,000 people trained in under 8 years and in 25 countries, we have student reviews. Real video reviews. Check them out below:

https://theaddictionsacademy.com/about-us-drug-and-alcohol-treatment/testimonials-cali-estes/